What Are You Trying To Get Over ?


<photo by me @ Moss Landing, CA>

Darkness looms at some point in all of our lives … grief, sickness, addiction,  loneliness …  < you fill in the blanks>

It has been over 6 years since Jake suffered his stroke.  A child literally thrown into a world decades older than his age. ‘They’ say that time heals all wounds.  News flash!  Time has not put a dent into the pain or the reality of this battle.

How long have you been carrying your burden? If it has been more than a year, it’s time to get over it.  JUST GET OVER IT!!  Oh really? What world do you live in?

Yet, at times, it feels as if the world judges our trials in that way.  Perhaps those judging have never faced darkness.

The reality is that there are events in our lives that we will never get over.

What?  Wait!  Never get over?  Do you mean I may never get over this?

I can now breathe a sigh of relief because I have permission to shout that it’s okay not to be okay!  

Over the past six years, I have met people who are living with unimaginable loss and still carry the pain.  However, they have found a way to move forward in life, in a joyful way.  I want what they have!

As I try pressing forward, it has been the hardest part of the journey.  Life as we knew it is now a distant memory.  Outside of a miracle, there will always be deficits with my child.  Deficits .. sounds like the budget.  Disabilities!  Okay!  I said the word … Disabilities!

What unseen scars do you carry daily?  They are hard to heal.  Yet they do represent survival along with a lifetime of lessons.

Do I have all of the answers on moving forward?  Absolutely not.  This is a journey in progress.

The Pressing Toward Joy thought for you and me today is … our words.  ‘Change your words … change your life.’   Could our conversations be affecting and contributing to our worry?  Pray and meditate on that thought …

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”  Proverbs 18:21

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10 thoughts on “What Are You Trying To Get Over ?

  1. Love you Anne. I am
    So glad you continue to keep in touch. I have missed my Anne time. Beautifully written. Prayers for you and Jake and your sweet family. And THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP. ITS SO HARD SOMETIME YOU JUST WANT TO BLOW.

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  2. Thank you, Anne Louise for your transparency. Your honesty is refreshing. I’m looking forward to following you in your blog. Thank you for sharing your life with the world for HIs glory!!

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  3. You probably don’t remember this, but I remember telling you that at some point, you might get angry. It was inevitable….grief has stages for all of us. And you don’t have to have someone die to get the lovely gift of grief. Embracing a new life isn’t something any of us anticipated when we already liked our life. You are a naturally joyful person, but there’s no pain worse than that we suffer for our children. Keep pushing forward! Love you much.

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  4. Hello, my name is Teresa. I, too have been a Shepherd Center mom. It will be a year on Monday since our life shattered. My son, Seth had a stroke due to a ruptured AVM. He was 18 at the time. He is healing.
    I just want to say thank you and Amen to your post. I have the same feelings. Through your words, I have decided that it is okay for me to not be ok. I am not ok yet.
    Thank you so much.
    Teresa Dickinson

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